Here’s the deal with the “friend” thing. Guys, no matter their age, don’t need or want friends who are females. They have their guy friends to hang out with, play sports, watch the game. And guys prefer their guy friends for most activities.
It can happen, where you have a genuine male friend (with no benefits), but when he gets a real girlfriend, you’re history.
Men primarily want women for one thing, and one thing only: SEX.
Oh sure, men want female companionship sometimes, but any personal relationship a man has with a woman is incidental to his primary desire to have sex with her.
In other words, if it weren’t for our vaginas, men would have nothing to do with us.
You know when that guy from your past—that you didn’t have sex with back then—emails out of the blue asking how you are doing? He doesn’t care how you are doing. He isn’t getting in touch so you two can swap Martha Stewart recipes for homemade marshmallows. He wants to find out what his chances are of boning you now.
And to that email guy, and to every other male you’ve ever encountered that you didn’t sleep with: you’re just a woman they haven’t boned yet.
So here’s the deal. When a man says he wants to be “friends” with you, it can mean ONLY one of two things:
–He’s letting you down gently ’cause he’s not interested.
-Or he’s pretending to be your friend, but has ulterior motives. He will act all casual, all strictly clean and “friend-like,” but he’s using the “friendship” to put you off guard, to worm his way into your inner circle and get close enough to—bang you.
Let me repeat this: That dude you’re emailing/texting/whatever just wants to sleep with you. That’s it. He doesn’t want to go shopping, watch the game, go to sporting events, watch a movie, or eat a meal with you. He’s only going through all that so he can eventually……what? That’s right, bang you.
See video example of what I’m saying here:
(This is an enhanced reblog from 3.15.2012)