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That Psycho Killer is Going to Relish Chopping You into Little Pieces

January 16, 2016

Once again, another American woman has been raped and murdered visiting a foreign country. This time it’s TV producer, Ann Swaney, who was found dead in Belize a mere two days after she arrived. Someone attacked her as she was performing yoga by a river in broad daylight. Women need to understand the world is… Read More ›


Ladies, Stop Being So Desperate for Anything With a Pulse and a Penis

While I was having my millionth conversation with my girlfriend about her boyfriend problems, it occurred to me how desperate women are to be with a man—so pathetically needy they will tolerate anything. My girlfriend’s supposed man is right now on a month long cruise with another woman. That’s right. Her man, who pledged to her on… Read More ›


6 Hairstyles Guaranteed To NOT Get A Man To Notice You

I came across a beauty article about “the hairstyles that get guys to notice you”. Naturally, the hairstyles were:  long hair, long hair in a pony tail, long hair with loose curls, long hair with tight curls and long shiny hair. Okay, I think we get that guys like long hair, but what don’t they… Read More ›

Woman Getting Bad Text Message

You’ve Been Unceremoniously Dumped. Should You Go Psycho?

You’ve been seeing each other for a few months, maybe years. You’re in a committed relationship and you think things are going great. You receive a text from him, “I’ve met someone else. I want to get my things out of your place asap.” WHAT?! He’s met someone else?? It’s over?! How can that be?… Read More ›

Behind Bars

Quit “Dating” Men in Prison!

I’ve been following the blog of a woman who calls herself Lonely Heart. It consists of nothing but dozens of love letters to her man. They have to write snail mail letters because he’s away—no, not in the Navy serving his country. He’s in prison. She claims he’s been “wrongfully imprisoned.” I asked what Mr…. Read More ›


How To Attract a Man

I have come to realize from reading lists of unrealistic requirements for a man, and women’s ridiculous online dating profiles, that women don’t know jack about men. I’m shocked since there are books about men galore, and talk shows discuss relationships ad nauseum. Somehow women aren’t getting the message. Women of all ages don’t seem… Read More ›

Young woman with a black eye

If You Find Yourself Being Smacked Around, It Is Your Own Fault

Today’s post is about a serious topic:  domestic abuse. Dr. Phil is on a mission to keep women from being battered. His slogan is “End the Silence On Domestic Violence.” But I recently watched him counsel a woman whose boyfriend, punched, choked, and kicked her. Dr. Phil told her she wasn’t to be blamed for… Read More ›


Screw Trust. You Need to be Watching Your Man Like a Hawk

Some bloggers responded to my post “He Doesn’t Want to be Your Effing Friend!!” with statements about how you just need to trust your partner. Wrong. We’re always told in order to have a healthy relationship you must trust your partner. It would be great to trust your partner—whether it’s a man or woman. The fact is, you shouldn’t. Trust… Read More ›

Even this nice young man just wants to bone this nice young woman

He Doesn’t Want to be Your Effing Friend!!

Here’s the deal with the “friend” thing. Guys, no matter their age, don’t need or want friends who are females. They have their guy friends to hang out with, play sports, watch the game. And guys prefer their guy friends for most activities. It can happen, where you have a genuine male friend (with no… Read More ›

Man Using Cell Phone

Face it! He’s Giving Off Clues He’s Not That Into You

A few years ago, Greg Behrendt wrote a brilliant book called “He’s Just Not That Into You” to help women figure out what was going on with men. The concepts still apply, but need updating. He’s not that into you if: 1.   He doesn’t call/text or email –  Yeah, there’s nothing going on between the two of you… Read More ›

Couple eating contrasting meals

Ten Painful Things Your Guy Isn’t Telling You

If your man could be brutally honest with you, this is what he would say: 1. If he had one wish it would be for you to stop talking so much 2.  He doesn’t want to watch the game with you (see reason #1) 3.  He checks out other women — all the time 4. … Read More ›