I stumbled across a blog from a single, middle-aged woman looking for love and was struck by the lengthy “non-negotiable list” of demands her
next non-existent man was going to have to meet.
She had bad relationships in the past, and she wasn’t going to “settle” for anything less than everything she wanted.
She went into great detail—as if men out there are eagerly savoring each word— hoping they are The One who meets her stringent requirements.
This is her edited list:
- Honesty/Integrity/Loyalty/Sincerity/Values/Priorities – No flirting with other women allowed
- Best Friend/Confidant
- Humility – knows/accepts when he’s done or said something wrong and can apologize (no excuses, but rather reasons)
- Chemistry/Passion/Intensity/Sexual Compatibility
- Non-procrastinator (terminal)
- Must be good to me and FOR me (as well as for my children…i.e. male figure, role model)
- Enjoys snuggling/kissing/PDA
- Social/Work/Hobbies/Alone Time
- E.Q. – the ability to correctly assess the emotions and oneself and those with whom one interacts
- Conversation/Communication skills
- Shares all household responsibilities (cooking/cleaning/bills etc)
- Willingness to grow
- Work Ethic
- Sense of humor
- Financial stability
- And maybe even more….
Glaringly absent was any mention of what she was going to do for this vulnerable, sexy, motherly, affectionate, funny, self-aware, humble, well-off, work horse of a man.
Her female commenters encouraged her, commenting how she shouldn’t lower her high standards, “You go girl!” and called her list “reasonable.”
I told her to GET REAL.
Her list is not only wildly unrealistic, it’s insulting.
This “lucky” man is to work his ass off (but hey, that’s what men are good for, right?) and when he comes home from work on time, he is to engage in appropriate conversation by first correctly assessing her emotions, make her laugh, cook dinner, clean up, help her kids by another man do their homework, and then cuddle with her.
Maybe some day robots will be able to do all this, but there isn’t a man alive who can.
Men are human. They aren’t superhuman. But, most importantly, they aren’t here to serve women.
This skewed way of thinking on the part of the list creator is a result of feminism.
Feminism has emboldened women with huge egos where they feel it’s acceptable to create endless lists of criteria a man has to meet without a thought as to what they bring to the relationship table. Because we don’t really need men anyway. We’re doing men a favor by gracing them with our ungrateful, demanding, bitchy presence.
Feminism has incorrectly taught generations of women that men are expendable, useless things they don’t need. Once we have a sperm bank on every corner, men can just die off.
Feminism brainwashes women to hate men with the claims we live in a male dominated “rape culture”. Women in western society don’t live in a rape culture, but women in other cultures do.
Feminism encourages women to have children without a partner, which means children aren’t being raised under the best conditions—in a family unit. (Single motherhood is the #1 reason for women and children living in poverty.)
Feminism sells women a bill of goods with the ludicrous notion women “can do anything” a man can—except women can’t even change a flat, let alone repair a cell phone tower or stop a nuclear core breech. Women would quickly die if all the men suddenly disappeared.
Feminism has infested our culture with female characters who have supernatural strength and fighting skills. These bad ass chicks easily kick men’s asses. This is not only unrealistic, it’s dangerous because there are a lot of young women who think they can go off with a strange man and “handle it” should he turn out to be a psycho killer. I wonder how many women have died because they thought they were Katniss Everdeen (The Hunger Games).
Feminism indoctrinates women to take men completely for granted.
Feminism is the worst thing to happen to relationships in the history of humanity.
Feminism is destructive.
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