Guys are very bad when it comes to communicating verbally that it’s over. You could be with him for years, and have 10 kids with him. It doesn’t matter.
He will do almost anything to avoid having to say the words to your face, “I don’t want to be with you any more.”
It’s because guys can’t stand a woman’s anger or tears. So…in order to avoid this unpleasantness, a man will try to get his woman to break up with him first.
Problem is, this method of ending a relationship doesn’t work neatly. It only creates total miscommunication, confusion and needless drama. The guy thinks he’s sending a clear message that he’s finished with the relationship through his actions. But, the woman thinks—since he hasn’t said anything—and he’s acting so differently, that must be depressed, or going through a rough patch in his life. She thinks he needs more of her love and understanding.
The man gets frustrated the woman isn’t taking the hint, and becomes a Super A**shole. He will say mean things and do mean things. Or he won’t say anything and be coldly silent all the time. He will do whatever it takes to get the No-Longer-Wanted Irritation (her) out of his life.
Most girls/women not only don’t “get” his message, but they can also get caught up in the idea they have invested so much into the relationship they don’t want to give up—no matter how badly he acts. They will keep hanging in there to basically be abused.
Important Relationship Tip for the Guys: Man up. Tell her verbally it’s over. Don’t equivocate, candy-coat or minimize it. Don’t use words like “yet” and “maybe.” Don’t give her any hope. Just say, “I AM DONE WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP. THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO FIX IT. I’M OUTTA HERE!”
Then leave—and stay gone.
(Enhanced reblog from March 26, 2012)
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You have to do it like a bandaid, rip it clean off!
Good analogy.
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Well the reason for men being reluctant and stuff about letting the girl know it’s over is a sense of “not wanting to hurt her”.
Okay, I found it. I disagree, partially. I think men might not want to hurt a woman, but their primary reason for not breaking up properly is self-motivated. They simply don’t want to deal with dramatics.
I love the pictures and the captions on this one… so cool!!!
One time this happened to me and after 3 weeks I was like, “hey buddy, time to break up, I get it.” He got all upset and freaked out and it turned out that he was acting like a fool because of a project at work. I felt like a dick. So we talked it through and it was almost like he needed to be reminded that communication can clear the brain.
If I had told him to communicate though, he would have been annoyed, haha.
That’s so true! You can’t win. He would have been annoyed, thought you were a nag, and wanted to break up. LOL
exactly. men.
Timely post – my BFF had a flip-flopper for 2 months. I sent this to her – it’s so important guys just end it.
I’ve seen my gfs go through hell because their husband wouldn’t end it in words.
One hubby was sent overseas on a military tour and refused to give her a phone number to contact him. (This was before cell phones). I mean, come on, this is YOUR WIFE. If you don’t want her, just say so. Don’t play these games.